Let’s face it; divorce is hard for everyone involved. However, divorce can be the hardest on the kids in a relationship. The stress of mom and dad separating for good can be enough to cause their whole world to spin.  

In some cases, the damage from their parents getting divorced can carry on into their adult years and even cause strain in their future relationships. 

It’s in your best interest as parents to try to avoid making mistakes that could hurt them later on. Take a look at some of the most important ones to look out for.

Putting Their Kids in The Middle  

It’s normal to feel frustrated during the divorce process. It’s not uncommon for one parent to feel angry and spiteful towards the other. However, it’s important not to use the kids as tools. A lot of parents make the mistake of trying to turn the kids against the other parent or even take away custody from the other parent. 

However, putting your children in the middle can cause unnecessary guilt and strain on their relationship with both parents.

Too Much Moving The Kids Around 

As much as you might like the idea of your children spending as much time as possible with you throughout the week, the reality is that you have to share them. However, rather than sharing them in small and frequent doses, you should consider sharing custody for longer periods. 

Imagine having to move back and forth from two houses every few days. You wouldn’t love having to pack up everything over and over again. Why would kids love it any more? If you can, try to do less back and forth between parents houses. A father's rights attorney can give you more insight into how you can make the transition smoother for your children, but ultimately it is the courts that set the schedule, so having a specialist on your side will ensure you can build your case for equal visitation more effectively.

Asking Your Kids For Information 

A lot of parents grill their kids for information on the other parent, not realizing the extreme stress they’re causing their kids. Don’t try to use the children as spies for your own benefit. You’re better off just letting things go. Making your kids feel like they have to be on the lookout for certain things can be just plain stressful.

Trash Talking The Other Parent  

It’s not always easy to hold things in when you’re feeling emotional. However, you shouldn’t share the way that you feel with your kids. Even though you may be screaming inside and want to let out what a horrible person you may think your ex is, your kids shouldn’t be your confidantes.   

Instead of making them carry the burden of your anger towards your ex, keep it between you and your ex. If you must, confide in a friend or a family member. Your kids will end up feeling guilty for loving the other parent if you force them to take sides.