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Dad's Guide To A Healthy Relationship In The Marriage

Why do some couples live happily ever after, while others constantly quarrel and eventually split up? Is it possible to save a family and build an "ideal" relationship and maintain it? Are there any secrets or tricks? Here are the top 7 elements that are immensely important for a healthy relationship. 

Compromising

There is no way to do without it in family life. If you learn to make concessions, you will soon notice that disputes and conflicts are much less. Sometimes you just need to give in, so as not to offend your partner and not to spoil the relationship. If you take into account the opinion of your spouse, then he will start to consider yours. However, it is important to realize that an ideal relationship and a strong family are mutual concessions. That is, both must give in, otherwise one will always be at a disadvantage, and the other will think that he is the main one in the family and has the right to decide everything for everyone.

Being Friends

 If spouses will not only be husband and wife, but also good friends to each other, then the marriage will be strong and happy.  Good friends share secrets and worries, constantly joke (sometimes even vulgarly or inappropriately), give each other advice and just always be there for each other in difficult moments. Become friends for each other and you will see that you always have something to talk about. After all, you can't get bored with a friend, can you? But there is one nuance: even under the condition of such friendly love relationships, you can not forget about other friends.

Talking To Each Other

Communication isn't an easy skill to master. According to the statistics, many spouses can not have fruitful conversations. What's wrong? The first problem is not listening. If your partner speaks, refrain from comments and corrections, wait until he or she speaks out, and then begin to respond. The second problem is the inability to speak. Learn to construct phrases correctly and speak in normal language. Avoid harsh words, as they can be very hurtful. The third problem is the inability to control emotions during a conversation. If you feel that you "boil", it is better to postpone the conversation and calm down. The fourth problem is an unwillingness to talk. Both spouses need to realize that if problems are not discussed, they will not go away on their own. If you learn to talk, you will notice that life becomes much easier.

Trust

You can't build a strong family or relationship without trust. What is trust? If you trust, you will not check your spouse's phone, and call him constantly if he is late. Yes, it is not easy to gain trust, but it is so easy to lose it! What to do? If you still do not trust your partner, then evaluate his or her actions.

Readiness To Forgive 

Offenses not only prevent us from loving, being happy, and enjoying life and every day spent with a close and beloved person but also can undermine health. So don't harbor grudges, learn to forgive. Of course, some things are impossible to forget. But is there any sense in living with a man who commits unacceptable actions? No. But to take offense at trifles is not necessary. If the spouse in anger says something unpleasant, forget about it. And remember one more important point: if you have forgiven a person, never remember what he did, never reproach him for it.

Common Interests

If the spouses do not have common activities, hobbies, and interests, then they at one point may seem alien to each other. So by all means, find something in common. It can be movies of a certain genre, a passion for a certain sport, traveling, online casino games (many couples play Aviator Game to explore one of such games), and much more. A common activity will allow you to see traits that were previously unknown. Also, a shared hobby will help you spend more time together and bond. All in all, it's one of the best things about it!

Accepting Your Partner And All Her/His Flaws

Do not try to change your partner and adjust him/her to you. Close your eyes to the little things and accept the man as he is. Of course, if the spouse himself wants to change something in himself (for example, get rid of some bad habit), by all means, help him in this. 

And which aspects of a relationship are the most important for you?