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Men Aren’t Immune To Emotional Breakdowns: How To Reopen Your Heart

We’ve all gone through periods of emotional exclusion, of closing our hearts for a variety of reasons. Because we’re overloaded and oversensitive, we sometimes just want to shut ourselves within so that nothing touches or engages us, that we don’t feel anything, that we don’t let anyone into our world.

But, after some time, this layer of protection becomes a hindering factor due to the fact that we can’t allow anyone to approach us and we can’t have a close and warm relationship. That’s why you need to reopen your heart, step by step.

Only You Can Give Yourself a Chance to Be Happy

Whether it’s your spouse, friend, or parent that hurt your feelings, they have no power over your life and aren’t accountable for your feelings. They just put you in a situation where you face painful things to empower yourself and learn something about yourself.

After some time of licking the ‘wound’, you should once again give yourself a chance to establish divine relationships, to find joy and satisfaction in the exchange of feelings. Happiness is in small things, and they aren’t difficult to find in everyday life.

Find a New Friend

During your life, you meet many interesting and quality people, but not all of them become your friends. There are a small handful of friends because a friendship is built and developed over the years, as well as any relationship that survives. But there’s always room in your life for new friendships, for people you feel connected to, who inspire and appreciate you...

So, invest time and energy in developing a new friendship, expand your circle of trusted people – this is a task that will ennoble your life.

Allow Yourself to Fall in Love

You don’t have to take infatuation too seriously. It’s an adventure in which you don’t know where you’re going and what the ultimate goal is.

Let your feelings carry you and enjoy the intensity – it’s not a guarantee for the future, nor a guarantee that the chemistry will turn into deeper feelings, connection, and belonging, but it’s exciting and fun. Approach infatuation through play and curiosity, not in a fatalistic way (if destiny exists, it’ll certainly do its part).

Give yourself Up

It takes a lot of courage to surrender to someone, but giving up yourself is practiced through commitment, not just to a romantic partner, but to everyone you love.

Don’t shy away from making promises and keep them, especially if you make someone happy, give full attention to loved ones (whatever request or matter it is), feel connected and exchange energy through trust and understanding, and feel the joy of belonging and surrendering. Believe it or not, your heart is much bigger than you can imagine and every act of love (for yourself and others) only increases its capacities.

Overcome Fear

Heroes aren’t immune to fear, they just ignore it because there are much more important things than fear, things that would make you feel bad and for which you’d blame yourself until the rest of your life if you didn’t do them and took charge of them, just because you were afraid. This applies not only to courting or dating. You’re afraid of changing your haircut because you think you might look silly? So what, if that’s the case, you can always get a buzz cut and start all over again. You’re afraid to place a bet on underdogs at online bookmakers at Bookmaker-Expert.com because you’re afraid of losing money? So what, don’t put in huge sums and the loss won’t be big. Gains, on the other hand, can be substantial.

You’re the hero of your life and any fear that fails to stop you and prevent you from doing what you want or know is the right thing to do is a huge victory (even if the fears are small). You can’t live without any risk, you can’t protect yourself from every bad and difficult experience, and, ultimately, you can’t avoid pain. So do what heroes do – face your fears and overcome them.