When it comes to parenting, society often paints the picture of a father as the strong figure that financially supports the family. On the other hand, the mother is the caregiver, emotional support and the one that is usually involved in the process of personal growth. Depictions of dads in popular culture push the stereotype of the father as an emotionally disconnected “secondary” parent. Having an active father figure plays an equally important role in the healthy development of a child.

We live in very challenging times where the human interaction is replaced mainly with virtual chatting and hangouts, and children also spend a lot of time playing on the computers or watching series. As parents, we have to be able to encourage interaction or start a talk with them. So, if that means less time spent on pointless scrolling on social media, checking the latest video games or online slots or less worries about work – let it be. The wellbeing of our children is a top priority, and we sometimes take that for granted.  Children with their dads involved in the process of emotional growth are likely to be more confident, form better social bonds and have better communication skills.

Here are the critical ways that fathers impact the child’s development:

Provide different perspective

The distinct approach to handling kids and interactions that are unique to a father & mother seems to have a beneficial effect on children. The unique and contrasting interaction that kids have with both parents offer variety in their experience and learnings. It also fosters a capacity for these children to attach to each parent as a separate individual with different relational styles and behavior. Children with fathers who were actively involved in the first five years of their child’s life perform better on cognitive development assessments and demonstrate an increased desire for curiosity and exploration.

Boost confidence

The emotional support provided by a father to his child is a priceless gift. Helping your kids to understand how much they are valued, loved and show them the potential they have to make the world better place is beyond important. When they grow older, they’ll more likely demonstrate a greater tolerance to stress/frustration/disappointments. They’ll show initiative in new situations, cope with pressure from peers and not be afraid to stand up for themselves.

Someone to look up to

Fathers provide a positive, strong role model for their children and help to promote/reinforce good behavior. As a result, children tend to be more compassionate and generous, with an increased awareness of the needs and rights of other people. As a father, you are being watched by your children, observing what you do, how you treat others and how you deal with challenging times. In time, they’ll start to imitate your behavior and adopt similar traits as yours. Also, they’ll tend to seek the similar characteristics you’ve displayed when choosing their friends or a partner. They’ll be able to understand that a man should be kind, gentle and caring towards his family, yet strong and wise.

The first friend to have fun with

Forming a healthy relationship with your children will set the base for the two of you becoming friends as adults. Though it is always essential to make sure you set your boundaries, having a close and friendly parental relationship will make your children more comfortable when they are around you. Also, it would be easier to guide your children when they are open, sincere and feel comfortable around you. An involved father will enjoy having his children ride around on his back, do creative projects or play video games. As a father, you can often teach them to solve problems during games and form winning strategies.

Elevate emotional support and counselling

Children should be open about their fears and challenges. That’s where you step forward to help them grow in their character and understanding. Make sure you open up to them about your childhood and the lessons you’ve learned while growing up. Help them to solve their problems with sensitivity and confidence, no matter if they are school-related, work-related or personal. Advice on how to handle a difficult situation and let them know you are there for them, even if all you can do is talk or hold them in your arms.  

Don’t shy away from interacting more with your children. You’ll help them grown and develop into well-balanced adults and will create memories that you and your kids will hold dearly in your hearts.