A Father's Guide To A Divorce

The end of a marriage, or long-term relationship, can be challenging for anyone to handle. After all, it signifies a significant lifestyle change that often leads to a lot of emotional turmoil for both parties. However, the act of becoming a single father is not spoken about as often as being a single mother, nor is the impact that a divorce can have on men’s mental health.  

For example, divorced men are more likely to deal with a range of mental health complications, such as depression and anxiety. They are also less likely to reach out for help when they need it - for which the circumstances can be dire. As a result, it's vital that you are aware of the different techniques you can use to navigate this difficult time in your life.   

●        Focus on your kids. When going through the divorce process, it's only natural for feelings of anger and resentment to come to the surface. However, it's vital that you don’t let problems with mom impact the kids or your relationship with them. This would only lead to a toxic co-parenting environment that harms not only your children but your own wellbeing. Where possible, try to keep things civil between yourself and your partner, as this will also help to speed up the divorce process and give you both the chance to move on.  

●        Reach out to a divorce lawyer. The legalities of a divorce can be a lot to handle, especially if you have little experience in the area beforehand. As a result, it's definitely worthwhile to reach out to a divorce lawyer as soon as possible. They will be able to answer any question you may have and ensure your best interests are protected throughout the process.  

●        Find an outlet for your emotions. As mentioned previously, divorces can cause a whirlwind of emotions to come into play - and while it may be tempting to try and bury them, it's crucial you find a healthy outlet for your feelings. For example, you should look into healthy ways to relieve stress, such as exercising or picking up an old hobby again.  

●        Find some stability. A lot will change when going through your divorce. Not only will you become single once again, but you may also have to find a new place to live. So much change so fast can be disconcerting, meaning you must try to find some stability and familiarity where you can. For example, instead of focusing on what is changing, focus on what will not change. For example, this could include your relationship with your children, friends, and family members.  

●        Consider therapy. Therapy for both yourself and your children could make it much easier to handle everything coming your way over the next few months. You should do some research ahead of time to find a mental health specialist who is right for you. For example, you might want to reach out to a specialist who has experience supporting people going through a divorce or adapting to becoming a single parent.